How to build a Career Success Mindset

Career Success Mindset…or any mindset building process is mostly passive and automatic.

Our mindset is influenced by the experiences and people we engage in. We become an average of 5 people we spend our time with.

Still, more often than not, we don’t pay attention to people with whom we spend our time that we are never going to get back. Typically, in the workplace, there are two types of people:

  1. People with Escapers’ mindset
  2. People with Accomplishers’ mindset

1. People with Escapers‘ mindset

People with Escapers’ mindset engage in the work to escape the unpleasantness caused by some other life experiences.

They do the work to entertain themselves: chit-chat with colleagues, overly enjoying free goodies offered at the workplace, cultivating relationships with the client’s team members just for being accepted, and so on.

How to identify people with Escapers’ mindset?

Escapers are found exhibiting one or more of the following traits:

  1. Unnecessary chit-chat with colleagues;
  2. Giving a lot of thoughts about what others are up to;
  3. Repeats the same mistakes again; talk about the effects of the mistakes;
  4. Do not pay attention to detail;
  5. Wait for the ‘instructions’ from other team members, usually seniors;
  6. They avoid accountability as much as they can;
  7. They give unnecessary attention to unimportant things.

2. People with Accomplishers‘ mindset

They do the work because they want to achieve a goal through the work. When they reach a goal, they set the next goal, and so on.

They do the work to achieve their goals: they take time to align their personal goals with organizations’ goals and work towards being super-clear about the expectations, outlining delivery milestones, cultivating personal relationships with colleagues and people at vendor/customer/end user’s end so that they can get their things done, and so on.

How to identify people with Accomplishers‘ mindset?

  1. They have set a core purpose for their career (and life);
  2. What others are doing is none of their business if their activities do not impact their work;
  3. When they make mistakes, they take ownership and learn from it; they choose to be a cause in the matter;
  4. They say NO to most things but whenever they say yes, they pay a lot of attention to detail;
  5. They do not wait for the ‘instructions’ from other team members to get something done;
  6. Although they are good with articulation, they communicate straight with the team members;
  7. They have binary thinking about what is right and what is not from the collective growth perspective of the organization, team, and self.

Both of them have very different perceptions, make very different decisions, and exhibit very different ownership of the actions.

While sometimes escapers can also get things done, it is the accomplishers who make not only their careers but the careers of their colleagues successful and contribute to making the business successful.

How do you like to classify yourself?

If you do not classify yourself as an accomplisher, how do you classify your surrounding?

If your surrounding has more (or any) escapers then you know what to do, don’t you?

Develop a career success mindset by consciously choosing to be an accomplisher.

To be an accomplisher, associate yourself with more accomplishers, experiment more, learn from the results and work in alignment with your career and company’s objectives … and you will be more successful than the most.

Irritation (un)FAQs

Q: How do I deal with irritation?

A: What do you not like about your irritation?

Q: When I get irritated, I feel annoyed and frustrated. What can I do about it?

A: Why don’t you want to feel annoyed or frustrated?

Q: Because it is wrong.

A: Then, you may not able able to deal with your irritation. Because right or wrong do not carry the necessary power and motivation for an individual.

Q: How so?

A: Consider the following examples:

  • It is proven that smoking is harmful to health. Still, people do it;
  • It is known that having relationships with multiple partners simultaneously do no good for human life. Again, it is seen very frequently;
  • Too much alcohol does no good to human health over the long run, yet, it is consumed a lot;
  • It does not require a Ph.D. to know that keeping yourself dirty sure brings diseases of different kinds. Still, nations need to run programs such as “Swachh Bharat” on cleanliness…

Q: I understand the examples you provided, but I don’t know what to do next?

A: I see.

Q: Don’t you see irritation as a wrong behavior?

A: I don’t see things in terms of right and wrong because right and wrong are social and religious constructs with no real ground in reality.

Q: I am amazed to see your disregard towards society and religion.

A: I have no disregard or regards towards society and religions. I try to see the truth of things.

Q: Still, you live in society. How do you make your life work?

A: Yes, I do live in society. And I am aware of the function of the cultures and religions. Rather than looking at them from the perspective of right and wrong, I look at them from the perspective of cause and effects. Every happening in society is either a cause or an effect. If I need to have a particular outcome, I need to understand what can cause it and take action in that direction.

Q: I am trying to understand it, for it sounds complicated, or at least it is very different. 

A: I appreciate your truthfulness. 

Q: What about irritation?

A: For how long have you considered irritation as wrong?

Q: From as long as I can remember. Almost my whole life.

A: And still, you get irritated?

Q: Unfortunately, yes.

A: Does this make it clear that right and wrong are insufficient concepts to make life work?

Q: I started to understand this point, but I wouldn’t say I like getting irritated. 

A: When do you not like getting irritated?

Q: I didn’t get your question.

A: When do you not like getting irritated? Before, during, or after the irritation?

Q: After the irritation.

A: Now revisit your statement: you mentioned that you do not like getting irritated. Still, the truth is you do not like the state after you have got irritated. 

Q: How is it important? Are you playing with the words?

A: I have no interest in playing with the words. Know that you would not be able to solve something that you don’t have a problem with. 

Q: So, I have a problem with the state which I get after I have felt irritated.

A: Then, you do not have a problem with irritation.

Q: How can I not have a state after I have felt irritated?

A: There isn’t something you can do about it because it is an effect, not the cause. 

Q: Why do I get irritated in the first place?

A: Because you wanted so.

Q: Huh! I really not like to get frustrated.

A: Then, you would not get frustrated.

Q: How can I be the cause of an unwanted feeling like irritation?

A: You are the cause if you wish so. You are not if you choose so.

Q: So, are you saying that I like being irritated?

A: Yes, and no.

Q: Can you enlighten me more?

A: A part of you feels happy when you get irritated. For when you do, you can exercise your right to get irritated. You enjoy this right. For you think that you have been wronged, and thus your irritation is justified. You do not wish to pass up on exercising this right. But, another part of you feels guilty for having been irritated. And this guilt is, to some degree, two-faced. The guilt makes you feel better and morally correct. For if you had felt good about getting irritated, you would have a difficult time accepting yourself. 

Q: And unless I genuinely wish to no longer get irritated, nothing will help. 

A: Yes, this is the truth. 

Q: And if I sincerely did wish to never get irritated, what would I need to understand? 

A: That irritation is not the solution as you think it to be. It is a weapon that you enjoy using to protect your ego and to support it.