On criticism

To hell with the critics, long live criticism!

Do you remember the people who criticize you?

Or you care about just the criticism and take corrective measures if you think you can improve?

It’s a “Who Vs. What” question.

Now think about this: if you remember the people who criticize you, your natural inclination will be to win over their hearts and do the things to please them.

When you do something to “please” someone, your act gets biased. Your such an act will make you stressful. Is such an act worth practicing? You know the answer.

But if you listen to just the criticism to understand the critic’s point of view, and if you are convinced, take corrective measures for improvement, the scenario changes.

When it comes to dealing with criticism, ‘What’ matters more than ‘Who.’

Don’t think of critics. Fix the act that caused criticism (or ignore it if you don’t care).

Think of people you love … your friends; your family; your kids; your spouse (if you still love her, or him) …

That’s a much better use of the most scarce resource you have – your remaining time in this world.

Some people live their lives thinking that they have unlimited time in this world. That’s not true. Your time is limited. Here’re the 7 most common deathbed regrets. Not worth having for sure.

Do something that gives you happiness. Learn from the criticism but to hell with the critics. You better do it!

Let go

Are you holding on a relationship that’s not worth your time and energy?

Yes?

We all know that our life is lived only once still we keep holding on relationships that do not shower us with love, empowerment, and encouragement.

We “hope” that things will work out one day.

  • That friend who has gone kaput will again be my closest friend … one day …
  • That pretty girl will say yes to my marriage proposal … one day …
  • That bad customer will turn into good … one day …
  • My mother-in-law (or boss) will stop shouting at me … one day …

One day!

We keep waiting but the “one day” NEVER comes.

Or even if it comes, it comes at a time we’ve stopped waiting for it.

What’s the point?

So, today let go of every relationship – real or imaginary – that constantly hurts you – do not keep people in your life who do not motivate you, encourage you, enhance you and make you feel good for who you are.

Your present being is inclusive of them. Exclude them today from your life.

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~ Lao Tzu

Let go.

Do not look back. Do not hold onto your past. Do not keep thinking about what you could have done differently.

“It’s OK to move on. You owe it to yourself to move on. You owe it to yourself to be happy with the relationships you have.” ~ The Minimalistc (Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan)

Let go.

Lori Deschene of Tiny Buddha has written a wonderful post called How to Let Go of a Past Relationship. Read it today. It provides useful insights on letting go.

Let go.

You will never regret your decision and the world will get a happier you … and you’ll enjoy it too!