Michami Dukkadam

Religions and I share a special relationship: I do not believe in any but I respect all of them.

But one thing I deliberately do: I observe the principles offered by different religions, see how they can help the humanity and continue my journey of becoming an aware human.

But this does not stop the religious messages and wishes I receive and it is obvious also as everyone is different.

Today, I received such a wish when I was beginning my day – from a Jain friend whom I respect for his remarkable dedication to work and ethics as a person.

He sent me a message – Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ along with a couple of lines that said that he is seeking forgiveness!

I read the message consciously and felt good about it. Soon, I thought I should know more about what Michhami Dukkadam really means. Hence I did a quick research (pardon my unawareness – I have received this message every year but I never really knew what it really means).

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ is widely used in the Jain religion on the last day (Samvatsari or Kshamavani) of Paryushana, the most important annual holy event of the Jain calendar.As a matter of ritual, Jains greet their friends and relatives on this last day with Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ, seeking their forgiveness. No private quarrel or dispute should be carried beyond this time. The importance of forgiveness in the utmost in Jainism.

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ means this: “May All The Evil That Has Been Done Be Fruitless.” 

Here is how I perceive it:

  1. When someone asks you to forgive, regardless if s/he has committed any wrongdoings or not, you get a specific chemical reaction in your body.
  2. You suddenly feel that the amount of selfishness you carry as a human starts to decrease. When selfishness decreases, you start to feel relaxed.
  3. If you don’t overwrite your state of being with new (and often selfish) experiences again, you remain in a great state of joy, an abundance of happiness and cheer.

I wish all of you who are reading this, get to experience that.

So here is my Michami Dukkadam to all of you …

For any reasons, or unreasonably;
By doing something or by not doing ‘some’ thing;
directly or indirectly;

If I have hurt you, emotionally, mentally, physically (I guess not) or otherwise, then please forgive this Nobody. 🙏

Micchāmi Dukkaḍaṃ! 🙏🙏

~UV (20170825)

Ownership trading

Jack puts in a lot of time to learn the techniques.

He’s a technique-biased learner. If you access his Dropbox folder called “To Learn,” you will see notes like this:

  • Top 7 ways to Write an Internal Office Memo That’s Not Boring
  • Top 10 SureFire Techniques to Lose Weight and Gain Muscles
  • What Everyone is Missing When Raising Their First Girl Child (and how not to)
  • Top 50 Tips to Make Money From Pharma Stocks From Day-Trading

Lots of how-tos …

The problem with this approach is that they are good to read but don’t always work as-is.

They need to be contextually modified to suit their specific needs.

Focusing merely on techniques is a great waste because it is not difficult to be good at a subject if we really choose to be.

We can be good at ANY subject if we choose to deal with an uncertain next and failures and frustration and the mess.

The problem is, we don’t want to take ownership to be good at something unless we find out that it is possible to for us to be good at that thing.

We expect others to coach us to be good at something while we do other stuff like updating facebook status, playing mobile games, attending a friend’s sister’s husband’s uncle’s daughter’s neighbor’s birthday party … or doing something else.

We want to be good at something while doing other stuff. Doing other stuff means our attention is divided and we are not 100% committed to being good at something.

What if we create a culture where the focus is on buying and selling ownership.
What if we create a culture where the focus is on buying and selling #ownership. Click To TweetWhen we buy ownership, we hold ourselves accountable to produce the results.

When we sell ownership, we have delegated a specific project or a task to a dependable person and that person has owned it.

Such a trade of ownership actually makes people choosing themselves.

A learner who chooses herself is unstoppable.

A learner who chooses herself is unstoppable. #habits Click To Tweet

Sure, it takes some time to get used to the uncomfortable situations that the trade of ownership puts you in but once got, it works as an extremely powerful tool.

Successful cultures practice trading of ownership. Successful individuals too.

Successful cultures practice trading of ownership. Successful individuals too. #success #habits Click To Tweet

What do you want to do?